It is a good news/bad news joke. The good news is that people are living longer. The bad news is that people are living longer - and when they get "too" old they are not able to live independently. In North Georgia the current cost of assisted-living facilities or a semi-private room in a nursing home can cost, at a minimum, $3,000 to $5,000 per month. A few years ago I came across a study that found that 24% of the care-givers for an elderly or disabled relative lived with the person to whom they were providing care.
In the case of a physically infirm relative isn't it better for family members to assist that person in living as normal life as possible? Once upon a time it was not all that unusual for grandparents, parents and children to live in the same household. As more people live into their 80's and 90's we may see many families with four generations alive at the same time with two of those generations in retirement. I am an optimist and believe that they will combine resources and help each other out.
For families who are not able to do it all by themselves, an entire industry called "non-medical home-care" is available. A "home health aide" can assist on daily activities such as dressing, eating and personal hygiene at a cost of $15 to $25 per hour.
There are also adult day-care programs to provide what the name suggests. You can consult to the National Adult Day Services Association at www.nadsa.org to learn more about these community-based group programs which can meet the needs of functionally and/or cognitively impaired adults. They provide a variety of health, social, and other related support services in a protective setting during business hours five days a week.
If people have a complicated situation with no obvious solution, consulting an expert could make life a lot easier. A "geriatric care manager" may be just the person to talk to. "GCM" services can be provided by a social worker, counselor, nurse, or gerontologist who specializes in assisting older people and their families. Besides the obvious role of counseling and support to the family that person can identify problems and provide solutions based on community resources.
An expert is more likely to know local resources and can assist in referrals to geriatric specialists in different disciplines. If living with the family is not feasible, a GCM can assist with moving an older person to or from a retirement complex, assisted care home, or nursing home. As one might expect these experts have started an association and a web site, www.caremanager.org. You also can visit www.eldercare.gov to identify senior services in your community. The "locator service" is also available by phone at (800) 677-1116 on Monday to Friday from 9:00 AM to 8:00 PM.
By now you may be wondering when will I bring up the subject of "Medicaid planning" to cover the cost of nursing home care. A while back some elderly people thought it was smart to give away many or most of their financial assets to their children with the idea that they would increase their chances of qualifying for medicaid payment of nursing home costs. It is not that simple and probably never was.
First, Medicaid is a welfare program for the poor. There are very low limits on how much a single person can have in assets so as to qualify for Medicaid. How low? Try less than $2,000. It is different for a married couple because a "community spouse" is not required to be totally impoverished so that the infirm spouse can qualify for assistance.
The numbers can change from year to year, so a discussion of the maximum assets for a married couple is sure to become obsolete. A good approximation is less than $100,000 of assets which are not exempt from the eligibility calculation. Exempt assets include: a home, rental real estate, vehicles, small life insurance policies, personal effects, burial contracts and plots and loans. There are also income limits for Medicaid eligibility which are too complicated to discuss here.
I could write an entire article about Medicaid eligibility, and still take the risk that it would be out-of-date as soon as I posted it to the web site. The best approach is to consult with an estate planning attorney who is familiar with the law before making significant gifts that are designed to reduce one's assets to qualify for Medicaid. There are attorneys who spend most of their time navigating through all of the Medicaid rules. Estate planning attorneys who do not practice in that area know those who do and should be able to give you a referral.
Long term care insurance, a subject I couldn't get to in this article may be a better alternative. My opinion is that any plan that involves depending upon the government is not a desirable solution.
We all want to grow old gracefully. For some of that we have to plan for the worst and hope for the best.